Love me some nachos…
I struggled with my weight my entire life. I was overweight in high school and gained way more than the freshman 15 in college. I mean who can resist late night pizzas and taco johns… every weekend. You have heard the horror stories and most women know its true…
Then you get married, have babies, have a career, have more babies, its a downward effect. After I had my 3rd child, I decided I needed to do something to get back to my pre kid or post wedding weight.
It was like one day the light bulb went on in my head and I was 100% committed to losing the weight. I have learned that unless you are 100% committed it will not work. I have tried many different programs in my lifetime (remember I’m over 40) slim fast, weight watchers, herbalife, macros, clean eating, the grapefruit diet, and just eating healthy. Each time, if I wasn’t 100% committed, it didn’t work. If you want to lose weight and want to do it with a friend or husband, you both have to be 100% committed. I have tried many programs where my friend did it with me, but I was not in it 100% and it did not work. I failed.. I failed many times.
In years past, I would work so hard Monday thru Friday with eating right and destroying it every weekend with splurging..It is so hard to be that dedicated with all the distractions in life. And every Monday, I had to try and get back on the wagon.... I would feel guilty and regret the decisions I made over the weekend. Because after you have one drink and a plate of nachos.. And GOD I LOVE NACHOS and I LOVE MY DRINKS…You start thinking you already ruined it so why stop now.
I started a weight loss program, which I was committed to completing. This was not just a change for me, but also for my family. If you are going to make a lifestyle change with losing weight, you need to have the support of your family, friends, boyfriend, etc. I remember when I first started, we would go to our cabin every weekend and my dad would not understand why I brought my own chicken breast and why I wouldn’t eat everything they were eating. Remember I am in my 40’s now and he is in his 60’s…
My friends were supportive, we would go for walks and exercise instead of just going for dinner and drinks. I will be very honest ,you can not make a lifestyle change without the people in your life supporting you. If your husband or boyfriend does not understand and support the changes, it will make it so difficult for you to lose the weight. If your boyfriend, only likes to eat out on the weekends and you want to cook healthy at home, there needs to be a compromise for your success. Trying to lose weight with children and a busy lifestyle is hard and you need all the support you can get, so tell your friends and family what you are doing so they can help you. Be honest with them and tell them how important this is to you. In the beginning, I was not open with my family about changing my weight and eating habits. It was very hard for them to support me without them understanding what I was trying to accomplish. I should have spoke up from the beginning.
I ended up losing 40 lbs and I felt like a completely different person. I was completely dedicated and motivated throughout the process. I really wanted to do this for myself. I had not felt good about myself in years and this was crazy how committed I was to this program. I actually think I did not have a drop of alcohol for months. People would stop me at school events and ask me about my weight loss. When people started to notice the difference in my appearance, I was just shocked. I did turn into a different person, I had confidence that I had not had forever. I felt good about myself, I had energy for the kids and wanted to try new things in life.
My weight has been such a huge part of my entire life and this was a complete lifestyle change for me. Maintaining the weight loss is so much harder than losing the weight. I lost the 40 lbs over 4 years ago now and I have gained back 10 lbs, but I am comfortable with it. I can still maintain this weight and I can have a lifestyle that works for me. I will always need to follow a program that has accountability and keeps me on track.
Support is very important and will be the key to your success!